What others are saying…

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We would love for you to share your experiences about the Hands Project with us. We want to spread the word and your testimonials will only help us reach out to more people. Please feel fee to leave us your story, by Clicking Here.

Thank you for your message of praise for our Fort Collins project.  I’ll share it with Carol Weale.  I wish our Fort Collins project could have been a larger undertaking, but we have high hopes that we can expand it over the next few years.  The teacher got permission for me to use the pictures in any way I wanted, so you are free to use them in any way you want.  Your getting to spread the information to the Oregon Child Care providers certainly should be helpful — child care places are wonderful places to start molding children’s behavior and attitudes!  Glad my report could be part of the information you handed out.
Our American Baptist Women’s Ministries state conference went well this weekend, and was climaxed (due to Carol’s diligent and dedicated efforts) with a beautiful and meaningful dedication during the Sunday worship service of that church’s support and use of Hands & Words Are Not For Hurting Project and of spreading its purpose.  They had the big H&W banner brought forward, and the congregation repeated the pledge.  The pastor gave a wonderful talk about the need for and value of H&W. Carol and I were thrilled, to say the least.  Her workshop turned out fine and created some more interest from a variety of persons — school/public librarian, persons who work with children of color, grandparents who want to help their family members re parenting, teachers.  She had one of our women who is a psychotherapist give some interesting studies and information regarding parenting, abuse, new ideas, etc.  I gave some “practical ways to get started in your community.”  Our conference theme “Breaking the Chains of Human Slavery in Today’s World,” dealing especially with the trafficking/prostitution issue, lent itself to discussions of preventative measures regarding abuse and violence.  So, all-in-all, it was a very thought-provoking and worthwhile conference.  We wished you could have been with us!
Carol shared with me one of H&W bags from you.  I really appreciate it, and I assure you it will be well-used and will start conversations that promote the project!  Thank you.
I’ll be looking forward to seeing your newly-designed website when it’s up and running.
Most sincerely,
Betty Moseley

A school nurse that has worked at our school for several years made an interesting observation. `What has happened here?’ When asked what she meant by that question, the nurse replied, `The children seem more relaxed and polite. What are you doing differently here?’ When told about the HANDS [& WORDS] Project, she pointed out that the change in the students’ behavior occurred at the same time the Hands [& WORDS] Project started being implemented in the school.”
– Visiting School Nurse

I did the HANDS [& WORDS] Project with my students and only one time since then did we have a problem with hitting. It was quite common before we implemented the Project. The concept, HANDS [& WORDS] ARE NOT FOR HURTING is fantastic!!”
– Judy Schomburg, 1st Grade

In Mexico, it is okay for mom and dad to hit their children, but not in America, because Hands [& Words] Are Not For Hurting.” The day after the student said this to the P.E. teacher, she came to the counselor and disclosed severe physical abuse.
– Student, 2nd Grade

I had a boy in my office who had been hurting himself in various ways and also had problems with hitting and pushing other students. I asked him about his HANDS Pledge and if he remembered doing it with his class. He said `No. I was not at school that day.’ Well, we sat right down and took the Pledge together. He took his HAND to his classroom and placed it with the students HANDS. His second HAND and mine are posted on my office wall. He was so pleased and he has not had any problems since taking the Pledge.”
– Kathy Bebe, Principal

A young child took the purple hands home to show their parents. The next day the parents came in and asked about the project and soon the entire family had taken the pledge.”
– Reports a Parent

I wanted to thank you for saying the `Hands Are Not For Hurting’ pledge the other morning after the Richmond Pledge. We have been working very hard with a couple of our students on this issue. Your timing was perfect. Five such important words!!!”
– Note from Teacher to Principal

A second grade teacher had her class do the project and then the children put the hands up in the classroom. The teacher commented that hitting and pinching in the classroom has dropped significantly. Weeks later when an incident did appear, the class just revisited the pledge and their purple hands they had taped around the room, and the hitting and pinching have stopped altogether.”
– Shared by a second Grade Teacher

I just want you to know that this project has really touched my heart and I believe that it has affected every aspect of my life and my children’s. It is a daily saying in our home to say, `What are hands for?’ and their reply every time is, `hands are not for hurting, they are for loving!!'”
– Candi Quintall, Department of Human Resources – Salem, Oregon

As a member of Domestic Violence Coalition and C.P. practitioner, this can be a part of every project on which I give instruction.”.
– Conference Participant
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

I’m going to do this! I believe that establishing changing core values is the only thing that will reduce violence. Thank you I believe this is an inspired project-Go with it.”
– Sheila Jennings
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

The most meaningful part of the training was “the personal challenge to alter my “style” of parenting. I’ve dreaded this moment and I welcome it at the same time. Now I have to walk my talk. As a single, many times exasperated mom, this is a good tool for me to control myself, and help my sons control themselves. We’ll do it this weekend.”
– Teri Poppino
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

I’m excited about exploring ways to introduce this in my community. Thank you! What a wonderful program.”
– Conference Participant
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

It will be easy to implement to any age group. I think this will be a great program for our school.”
– Conference Participant
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

The most meaningful part of the training was “the core values which were explained and taught.”
– Conference Participant
– Crime Prevention Association of Oregon, 22nd Annual Conference
– April 2000

“I learned that every kid needs to know about purple hands.”
“I was proud that I helped them learn what’s right.”
“I learned that when you learn something good you can tell others and then they can tell others.”
“It’s exciting to think that we may have made a class violence free.”
“I was proud to teach the kids “The Pledge”.”
“I was proud that I helped someone learn about purple hands.”
“It’s good to spread “GOOD” things around!”
– Students comments on teaching “The Pledge” to elementary students
– Oaklea Middle School, Junction City, Oregon

Lincoln County, Oregon – Resolving Conflict Creatively Program (RCCP)
RCCP has taken a lead role in a community-wide collaborative campaign entitled “Hands Are Not For Hurting”. The campaign goal is to recruit peace pledges from around the county…….Some county business are officially “violence free”. For example, Pacific West Ambulance displays a Hands bumper sticker on every ambulance and each of its 50 employees wears an approved Hands button.
– Waging Peace -Fall 1998, Volume 5, Number 1
– RCCP National Center, New York, New York

“Working with teen moms was fun. They learned about what makes a healthy relationship, took the pledge from themselves and their children, then hung their hands and the birth certificates up in the school hall. Many of these young women are not strangers to abuse and have come to our office for assistance later…….thanks for the great project.”
– Patricia Gerdau, Program Director
– South Central Oregon Domestic Violence Coalition
– La Pine, Oregon

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